I avoided group blogging today. After my crabby morning at school, I was done. And the more I think about it, the less I want to write about the topic--sex after marriage--because...well, because it makes me crabby.
In general, what motivates me to want more activity, has nothing to do with outside forces (although at this moment, outside forces do have some role). More often than not, it is how I feel about myself that lends itself to my desire (or lack thereof). If I hate how I look/feel, I don't want anyone to come near me, let alone come near me naked.
I think the negative stereotypes that surround women in committed relationships are the minority. Americans LOVE the negative. I'd love to know if in other cultures this stigma of "sexless after marriage" occurs as frequently as it does here.
Plus, men (a large amount of the time) enjoy being martyrs and being the center of attention. What better way to accomplish both than to bitch about the woman he committed his life to not putting out enough? Even if HE's the one who can't meet HER needs.
Check out Steph's blog--not just Thursday's either--she is a super fun writer with a super fun perspective.
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Thanks for doing this! I especially found this enlightening:
"Plus, men (a large amount of the time) enjoy being martyrs and being the center of attention."
Not to bash men...but we all complain. Women do too. "Why are men so...?" We ask that not because we necessarily feel they all are...we just need to vent. Plus the people who speak the loudest are the ones who are listened to...stand-up comics, the grump at work, that sort of thing. The quiet guy who's happy at home is probably quiet because he doesn't feel the need to be a jerk all the time and hog attention everywhere he goes...since he's happy.
I totally agree!! That is so true about the "quiet guy" I have one of those--I feel really lucky. The loudest people do make the most noise!!!! AND sometimes that is ME!! :)
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